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Updated on April 14, 2017 by Julie Tronsen Julie Tronsen

How to Forgive Others by Remembering the Cross this Easter

Sometimes it is really hard to forgive someone who has hurt you, especially if it is a family member. There can be a lot of tough emotions involved, even if you want to forgive them. But at Easter, the cross is a reminder of why we should do everything we can to forgive others. Knowing that Jesus suffered such extreme pain and death because he loved us can be a motivating factor in our willingness to forgive. He forgives us of our sins so we should be willing to forgive others. In Matthew 6:14 (NIV) it says, “For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your Heavenly Father will also forgive you.”

Forgiving someone doesn’t mean you are giving in. It doesn’t mean that you are saying what they did was ok. It also doesn’t mean that it was no big deal or that nothing happened. Forgiveness is about accepting that something bad happened, but that you are willing to move forward anyway, letting go of the negative emotions and choosing to be happy despite what others have done. Forgiveness can be liberating and can help you feel the love of Christ in your life.  

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Here are some tips to help you work towards forgiving those who hurt you:

1. Try to live in the present rather than the past. A lot of mental energy is used up when dwelling on the pain of past grudges. It doesn’t help to replay old hurts in your mind. The person who hurt you could have already moved on with their life and isn’t even aware that the incident has trapped you in the past. Letting go of the past frees up your mental energy to focus on things that make you happy.

2. Remember the cross and focus on your walk with Christ. When Jesus was on the cross and about to die, he said something that is an example to all of us. Referring to his executioners, He said, “Father forgive them for they do not know what they do.” He was willing to forgive the very people that were killing Him. As you walk with Christ, you can learn to love and forgive as He did. When you work on improving yourself and following Christ, then there isn’t time or energy left to feel anger toward others.

3. Look for the good qualities of the person who has hurt you. Sometimes when people offend, there is an underlying problem that you don’t know about. Even though you may not ever understand why the person has done something, it is still possible to forgive their poor choices. If you look for the good in that person, it will help you to see their potential to change for the better just as Christ sees this potential in you. Realizing that they have many good qualities will make it easier to forgive their troublesome qualities.

4. Counsel with your pastor or other trusted person. There are many angles to look at any situation from and having another viewpoint can help us see things in a different light. Sometimes the whole incident could have been just a misunderstanding. Even if that is not the case, your pastor or trusted friend can help you to step back from the situation and take a breather.  Talking it out might help you realize that it is possible to let go and move on and that it isn’t worth it to hold a grudge.

Others have done it. So can you.

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There are many people in history that also showed an amazing capacity to forgive people for wrongs that just seem too enormous to forgive.  Corrie Ten Boom was a woman who has inspired generations of people to remember the cross and forgive. She and her family were Christians that hid Jews from the Nazis during World War II. But one day in 1944, their efforts were discovered and they were captured by Nazi soldiers. She was sent to a concentration camp called Ravensbruck.  She suffered through terrible horrors at that camp, but kept a hidden bible to teach others in the camp about Christ.

After the war, Corrie Ten Boom traveled around the world preaching to others about forgiveness. She said, “God will give us the love to be able to forgive our enemies.” During her travels, she met one of the guards that had imprisoned her.  He heard her sermon about forgiveness and told her he was sorry for what he had dxone to her. Even though it was extremely difficult, she told him that she forgave him.

You can learn more about Corrie Ten Boom by watching her inspirational story called “Corrie Ten Boom: A Faith Undefeated” at PureFlix.com.

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